Tuesday, March 25, 2008

34 weeks, sickness, and mealtime battles

Easter Sunday marked 34 weeks for me. YAY!!!! But man I feel HUGE!!! We ventured south to see the family for the weekend. I think that may have been a mistake. I made a new rule while we were gone. If there is a baby #3, there will be NO TRAVELING once I hit the 3rd trimester. I was just too uncomfortable, the bed I slept in was horrid, and I just didn't want to be there. We did have a great time and DS had a blast with all the egg hunts he did. But it was so darn cold!!! I do have a picture to post of me taken on Sunday...I'll get that up once I track down my camera..... where did I put that?!? ;)

I woke up last Thursday morning with a tickle in my nose. Well, Friday I felt a little worse, Saturday a little worse than Friday, Sunday was awful and on Monday I called in sick to work b/c I felt like I had been run over by a truck! Oh this sucks. And being pregnant with this sickness sucks even more b/c I can't take anything! I did get approval for Sudafed and some Robitussin but that's it. None of the good stuff...Nyquil, Dayquil, etc... BUT, on the upside, I feel much better today than I did yesterday, so that's a plus. I am back to work today too so that's good. I don't know if this is a cold or what, but either way, I feel for anyone who has had it! It's awful!!! I made it through the entire winter without getting sick and on the first day of spring I come down with this. That's not even fair!!

Okay...any seasoned veteran parents out there? I need your help! We are having the WORST mealtime battles with DS. It doesn't matter what I make..."I don't like it." And then we proceed to battle with him to just try it. He doesn't get a choice at dinner time b/c I REFUSE to make 2 different meals. Besides, what I am making is usually healthy and good for you...but he won't even try it. So then he starts in talking back to us, which leads to a time out. Then we portion off his food "just eat this much" and sometimes he will, sometimes he won't. If he doesn't eat, he gets NOTHING after dinner and we are pretty firm on that one. I think the problem is that for breakfast I ask him "What do you want for breakfast?" And I usually get back a good response...cereal, waffles, oatmeal, yogurt, today it was strawberries. And when he's home with me for lunch, I usually give him options too, but at dinner he doesn't get options. So is this why he acts like this? If we asked him every night what he wanted for dinner we would get the same response every night--CHEESEBURGERS! I swear that boy is going to turn into a cheeseburger. Any tips or advice out there for me?? Last week, we made Roni's Parmesan Crusted Tilapia, which he has had before and LOVED, and last week he wouldn't even touch it. Is it the age (almost 4)?? I don't know, but I am at the end of my rope with this battle every night.

Oh and I am VERY far behind in my reading. I think I have something like 80 posts to catch up on. I'm working on it, so give me some time. :)

I better get back to it. Break is over! I'll check back later!


Diet Coke and Zingers said...

Hmmm... Well I've got 4 kids, so I guess that makes me a vet, right? Well, maybe not, but here's my best shot...

I think you're on the right track with dinner... He needs to learn that sometimes he can choose and sometimes he can't, but either way, he gets to eat what he's served... If my kids don't eat, I leave dinner on the table (covered in saran wrap) and when they say they're hungry, I offer to reheat it for them... NO other food until they eat it. (I serve small "manageable" looking portions- never more than I realistically expect them to eat)

Try not to make a big deal about it either... He may just be loving the extra control/attention that not eating gives him. Just serve him his meal and if he refuses to eat, let him know it will be waiting for him when he gets hungry.

Tina said...

I feel for you and hope you are feelin' 100 percent again soon. I agree, not fair to make it thru the whole winter and then spring comes and BAM. Can you use vapor rubs or anything like that? Was pretty soothing at bedtime for me... although I was also filled to the brim with Alka-Seltzer which you prob can't have. Bummer.

As for the eating issues, I'm with you on not making a second dinner just for DS. I don't have kids but remember that my mom went thru this with my brother off and on for years.. and basically it was DC&Z's advice.. let him know it'll be there when he gets hungry. Otherwise, the next meal will be breakfast.

Gosh, I hope that gets better for you!

ps. I know you're about to unload a child and all... but I made a meme and wanted to tag you. So I did. When you have time, I hope you'll play! :)

Jynell said...

Stick to your guns chicky- you are on the right track! IF you give in & give him something different, he learns that if he whines, complains or pushes long enough he will get what he wants. Being consistent with your house rules is the BIGGEST most important rule parents can have. With our meals, my kids know that they have to try two bites of whatever I make. If they don't like it, they don't have to eat the rest... unless they want seconds on something else. Then, they have to try two more bites of what they don't like. My five year old will now eat all kinds of foods that most of her friends would touch. She even asked for EXTRA peppers on her fajitas last week! It may also help to explain to your son why he needs to keep trying foods that he already "knows" he doesn't like. I forget where I read this & the exact number of tries, but it was something like it could take 10-12 tries of a new food for your tastebuds to learn to like the taste. My five year old thinks its the coolest thing to "teach" her mouth to like new foods. BTW, I agree that choice is fine sometimes & not others. Anyway.. I ramble again! You're doing it as I would- just stick to it. :D

MMalloy said...

I hope you are feeling even better today...ick, being sick is bad enough, not being able to do much about it would just be the worst!!
I agree with the rest of the girls, stick to your plan, DS will get over this phase and start loving your dinners again.
Yay, almost baby time!!!

Miss July...not...yet said...

so w/our foster daughter we would make her taste everything on her plate. She didn't have to eat any more than one bite of everything there just to see if she liked it or not. Then she could have fruit (although we limited that) or veggies like carrot sticks or whatever if she didn't eat dinner. we NEVER made her an alternative. Her mother still thanks us (she is 7 now) and says she didn't think she could make it w/a picky eater. She still is picky but is willing to try to see if she might like something.

We do the same thing with our son. It works, for now.